differences that don’t change

I care about my boyfriend a lot. This is the first healthy relationship Ive been in and he has been nothing but respectful towards me. However, we have some differences that are affecting our relationship. For example, Im very honest and open about myself whereas, he is more reserved. Hes also not as verbally affectionate as I am. These two things in conjunction with him living an hr away have taken a toll on our relationship. I have talked to him about it and he says he is doing the best he can and thag he shows affection in different ways than I do and communicates as much as he is comfortable with. We have been together five months now…idk what to do.

Communication incompatibility is a huge source of conflict in relationships. It sounds like you both have different styles of expression and communication and it doesn’t mesh well because you aren’t getting what you need out of the relationship.

He’s not gonna change the way he communicates, or rather, doesn’t communicate. I’ve dated affection deficient and emotionally stunted men and I always found it more productive to move on rather than try to get them to change. 

Just because this is the first healthy relationship you’ve been in, doesn’t mean it’s going to be your last. 

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